While teen competition in sports is associated with very real dangers, it’s important to remember that playing sports can also be quite good for these young adults. For example, a study in the journal Applied Research in Quality of Life found that teens who participate in sports felt better physically, socially and mentally. They just thought their lives were going in the right direction, and they felt both healthy and satisfied. Parents shouldn’t dissuade their children from participating in these activities, since they can be so helpful, but they should look for ways in which to make the sports fun for their kids.
Finding balance might mean encouraging a teen to participate in a myriad of sports, perhaps switching activities with the seasons.
Parents can listen to their teens and remain alert for concerns regarding performance, and they can meet with coaches if teens seem so focused on winning that they’re not enjoying their time on the field.
Parents might also watch their own language regarding sports. If the teen is praised after a win but berated or criticized after a loss, that child might feel as though winning is the only thing that matters. Praising the child’s performance is a better option, focusing on the ways in which the teen is improving and participating, rather than on the outcome of the sport.
Teens who no longer express any joy in sports, or who begin to consider drugs in order to enhance their performance, might need to take a little time out from the activity. There’s no harm in quitting, if the child needs to take a break. This might be the perfect opportunity for parents to step back and really assess the child’s mental health. If the teen is overwhelmed, perhaps counseling is necessary to help that child get back on track.